A Hard Lesson

I must apologize for always writing about love, romance, and relationships as my previous entries have been nothing but that; at the same time, I don’t regret a single entry that has been made. Why always write about love and romance? Love is everywhere, love is sought, love is lost, and love is the pain and pleasure of many people’s existence.

There are many types of relationships with many types of results; however, taken from one of my previous entries, love is ironic. To make a simple generalization, there is the wrong person at the right time, the wrong person at the wrong time, the right person at the wrong time, and the right person at the right time. This entry will discuss the right person at the wrong time.

A hard lesson learned; a hard lesson learned indeed. How do you deal with this situation when you know everything is right? Mutual feelings, mutual emotions, mutual experiences, mutual values, mutual beliefs, mutual lives… everything is amazingly perfect. A mirror of the soul, a reflection of yourself, the spitting image of your desired qualities; the nearest to perfection. You get the picture; everything internally is absolutely incredible. Externally, irony has its play at the present circumstances. Personal problems and issues create ridiculous obstacles that are impossible to overcome; lack of time, lack of priorities, lack of money, lack of individual attention, or lack of devotion. All are understandable conditions that create bars, walls, or barriers to prevent intimacy; it’s not the right time.

What do you do? You can wait or don’t wait; both have high risks to them. Waiting could be forever and that person may not be the same person as he or she was before; not waiting obviously could mean losing that person. Anyways, regardless of what you do, that person needs time and space; so give it to them. Wanting to be included is one of the most difficult anxieties to suppress, hold, and keep to yourself; but trust me when I say this, you’re only causing more damage when you try to place yourself into their lives when they simply don’t have the time.

They want you in their lives as much as you want to be included in theirs; however, help them out by not becoming another one of their worries. Help them when they need it, not when you want to. Maybe they don’t want you in their lives at the present moment because they can’t commit themselves fully to you; they have too many other priorities… and they want you to wait until they can commit to you… in the end, they’ve made their choice with you; what’s going to be yours?

This isn’t a set in stone result and don’t always count on everything happening exactly how you wish; in fact it may be just the opposite. Everything involves risk; everything. Maybe you’ll wait and find yourself in an even greater relationship than before or maybe you’ll wait only in vain. Maybe you won’t wait and find potential in another or maybe you won’t wait and lose your original potential lover… the next move is yours.

I will take that risk, I will wait… at least until I get my sweater, shorts, and heart back.