The Art of Forgiveness

Friday, April 03, 2009

It's so much easier to forgive and to forget and to not worry about guilt and disappointment... or wait, disappointment? By forgiving, of course you don't have to worry about guilt, but disappointment?


How do you know that you won't be disappointed again? In context, what's the point in forgiveness if you have that gut feeling that you're going to be let down again for the same reasons? Forgiveness in a sense isn't something that you can just give; it has to be earned. It's a renewal of trust and and a promise that you won't be hurt again. As much as somebody can say I'm sorry, do you know exactly what you're sorry for? Are you completely knowledgeable for the things that you've done and incoherently sorry for that or are you just sorry for the fact that you may lose a friendship? If it's the latter, unfortunately, your sorry doesn't mean anything.

You have to understand the pain and suffering that somebody has gone through to truly be sorry for your actions. You can't apologize and run; how can you expect somebody to forgive you if you haven't heard their side of the story? Apologize, stand your ground, take a hit, and listen to the damage that you've caused in another person.

Forgiveness is an art, it's like taking a damanged piece of work, painting over the ugly parts, and making it into something new; because when you're finally entirely forgiven for your actions, you'll find that you've made a stronger relationship than what you've had before.

Like I said before, it's so much easier to forgive and to forget, but sometimes you have to turn the other cheek to get a hard lesson learned to be completely forgiven.

3 comments:

Danielle Delos Reyes said...

OMG. Amazing Jared. You spoke the words that I've been wanting to say and have been trying to say. Kudos. [:

kristine said...

wow jared, i've actually been contemplating on this topic for a few weeks now. it's a tough one.. cause i dont think i could ever forgive the other person. but yet at the same time, i hate feeling unresolved. hmmm so what to do... trust me, it's easier said than done!!

jowee - (joweeunedited.com) said...

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I totally agree with your post btw. love you :)